I can’t believe tomorrow is March 1st, 2017. It feels like we should be six months into the year by now. We are enjoying mild weather. I am busy offering workshops to children in elementary schools as far east as Rockland, Ontario. I am now an Adult Advisor in the Sources of Strength program at Saint Michael High School in Kemptville and, above all else, I have been busy interviewing mothers for my upcoming book, The Mommy Monologues.
The last post I published hinted at this project but I was waiting for funding. The funding never manifested. However, as I talked about the project to women through work as well as in my social circles, it became apparent that the book needed to be written. I decided to take the leap and write it anyways. I am now halfway through the creation of this book.
I have met so many interesting women from all walks of life. They get to tell their story which has proven to be therapeutic. I learn about women in general, relationships, resilience, healing and, myself, in the process. We can be so powerful when we share our pain, our fears and our knowledge. Our strength lies in our connection. Women these days often lack adequate support, we have lost our community. Parenting is not a one-woman job. We need a village of women and that is what I hope this book will create, a safe space for healthy dialogue.
Here is an overview of the book.
The Mommy Monologues: Bridging the gap, one story at a time
What is The Mommy Monologues?
The Mommy Monologues is a book about motherhood, a collection of stories told by mothers from many walks of life.
What Is The Purpose Of This Book?
I aim to break down the cliques of motherhood and replace them with compassion, connection and mutual support.
Why Do We Need This Book?
Most books are focused on teaching us how to birth, feed and discipline our children. We read these books and listen to the advice of friends, family and strangers. Often, we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves. We assume everyone else has it all figured out. Mothering has become a competitive sport. We are busy being strong and this leaves no room for vulnerability.
From Monologues To Dialogues
I see my book as a bridge from the painful monologues of mothers who think, “This is hard. I don’t know what I’m doing. I shouldn’t be feeling this way” to a supportive dialogue which includes, “I know, it is hard. I felt that way too. I got through it. Here is what helped me” or “Oh I am so glad to hear you say that, I thought I was the only one who felt that way.”
Diversity Is Key
I sought out diversity in the mothers I interviewed because I want every mom to be able to find her voice in this book whether she is a teenager, a recovering drug addict, a victim of domestic violence, gay, paraplegic, depressed, homeless, black or white, catholic or jewish, married or single. I think its good for women who are different to read each other’s stories. It fosters compassion, insight and awareness.
Who Is Writing This Book?
Anne Walsh is an art therapist working with families in Kemptville, Ontario. She offers monthly Divorce Diva workshops. She teaches Mental Health skills to elementary school children. She has authored two books for children. Her new book, The Mommy Monologues, was inspired by her work with women and her own experience as a mother.
What Have You Learned?
Women undervalue their experiences. Most moms prefaced our interview with, “My story isn’t that interesting but I wanted to share it with you. Don’t feel that you need to use it.” The 24/7 demands of motherhood are more challenging for introverted moms who need time alone to recharge. More men struggle with postpartum depression than we think. Mothers have more in common than they expect.
How Can I get Involved?
If you would like to share your story, you can contact Anne Walsh at (613) 863-7685 or firstname.lastname@example.org. You can speak over the phone or meet in person. Anne will interview you, type up her notes and e-mail them to you. You can add or delete information, working together until you are satisfied with your story. Anne will not be naming the mothers in her book in order to protect their privacy.
The blog that go it all started:
An interview with The Kemptville Advance:
For More Information
Please visit Anne’s website: http://www.artnsoul.org